Quick Tip Tuesday: Love Him Well

Let me start with saying it is 5:00 in the evening and I really need to be getting supper started and the house picked up, rather than blogging while my children play on their devices.

I told myself, and you all, that I’d post a quick tip each Tuesday in February.

I’m in a “If I don’t plan it, it doesn’t happen” kind of season right now.

Today’s quick tip is this: Treat your husband well.

I’m struggling with how to say this confidently, without coming across as arrogant, so please give me grace for this next line:

I am a self-proclaimed “Great Mother”.

I love being a mom, I love teaching my children, and I love just about everything about motherhood- except bed-time (that’s where I need all of your quick tips). I mean I’m not perfect, but I enjoy this child-rearing journey A WHOLE LOT.

As a little girl I played with dolls, & I’ve practiced being a mom practically my whole entire life.

I never practiced being a wife.

I assumed if I wasn’t in the corporate world that I would marry some rich man who would be gone all the time for work and I’d just raise our kids and do my own thing in our beautiful Victorian home.

Then I married a guy who works 2 miles from home, eats supper with us every evening, and has never worked a weekend for as long as I’ve known him.

I never planned to spend this much time with one man.  I do praise God that I GET to spend so much time with him.

Over the past decade I’ve had to learn how to pray for my husband, and how to encourage him with my words and actions.

Wives, the best thing you can do for your husband is treat him well.  I know that sounds simple, but I also know there are seasons in life where that is just SO much work, for whatever reason.  Maybe it’s his fault, maybe it’s yours.  Regardless all you can do is practice treating him well.  You can’t change him, but you can change the way you love on him.  Give him the benefit of the doubt every chance you get.  Assume his actions are good.

I’ve witnessed in my own marriage what a difference it makes to lift my husband up and encourage him. I’ve also been blessed to see this happen in other marriages when the wife decides she’s “all in” and ready to love abundantly.

This week I challenge you to love your husband abundantly. Do everything you can for him, go out of your way to serve him.  Above all, and in addition to those actions I want you to pray for him.  If you aren’t sure where to start, just pray for his health and mind.  Then ask him “Honey, how can I pray for you this week?”  There may be something bothering him that isn’t even on your radar yet.

Just treat him well. When you screw up (and you will), apologize and keep on loving him abundantly.