Welcome! Thank you for stopping by. Would you join me for Devoted December?
Where did Devoted December come from? Well, I kind of like playing with words, and to me, Devoted December just sounds good to the ears. So that’s what I’m going with.
I don’t want to look back at things I’ve done and realize that I’ve merely accomplished them. I want to be proud of the work I’ve done and feel like I’ve done it well. So to do this, I am devoting more time into the areas that I think need the most attention.
Of course, with that comes spending less time in the areas that don’t matter diddly-squat to me! Such as, Facebook! I love connecting with y’all, I swear I really do! But I want to do it intentionally, not just because I’m bored and have a few free minutes to swipe my finger along my phone.
I realize I’m probably alone in this, as you all seem to really enjoy your time on Facebook. I enjoy it a good plenty, but overall it just makes me feel guilty. There is always something more meaningful that I could be doing.
Here is my back story to just one of the reasons why I have always struggled with Facebook.
Several years ago we had a great playgroup through Meet Up. I met up at minimum once a week with someone from the group. Most weeks I’d even meet up twice (back then, it didn’t feel like too much). This was back before the days of my littles being in school, things were easier. I felt so much more connected. I enjoyed the company of other moms. I needed the encouragement and the friendship.
Then we moved the group to Facebook, for some valid reasons. It was cheaper (free!), and it was easier since most of out members were on Facebook anyway. The down side is, almost instantly the group fell apart. It took the personal connection away (it wasn’t just the move, there were other factors, but they stemmed from drama on FB too).
I know many of the moms preferred planning playdates on Facebook, but it just didn’t work super for me. Over time, I noticed the group got larger in numbers, as it was easy and free to join. The actual playdates however got smaller. The conversation at the playdates got less and less deep as we were all strangers who had this false sense of friendship (since we were technically “friends”… on FB). Then the playdates became practically non-existent. As far as moms nights, Facebook works perfectly fine for those. It is actually helping connect even more moms than before!
I have been having a tough time wrapping my mind around this ever since it happened (I’m ready to let it go, NOW!). I realize we are growing, our children are aging, and we are all settling into a different season of life. I just wasn’t quite ready for that. I wish I had devoted more time to the new friendships I was making then. I miss those days.
To wrap it up: I will limit my FB time, and try my best NOT use Facebook as a substitute for REAL LIFE, FACE TO FACE TIME.