Married life is messy and hard. Life with real friends can be messy too. The people who speak the truth in love can offend us or frustrate us, even when they’re just trying to help. I’ve experienced this, and I know many of you have as well.
I want to remind anyone feeling like marriage and friendship should be perfect that social media often paints an unrealistic picture.
In my 10 years of marriage, I can’t count how many times I’ve wanted to walk away. It is humbling to admit that sometimes I longed for a carefree fairy tale instead of working through the hard parts.
Some friends might say I would be right to leave, to focus on myself. But there are friends who speak the truth in love. They point out my faults and help me grow, encouraging me to act more like Jesus—more forgiving and patient. Blaming others only makes me look foolish.
The Value of Effort
Mr. Awesome and I have had good days, months, and even years. I’ve realized that the effort I put into creating harmony in our marriage is worth it. I get what I give, eventually.
I cannot do it without Jesus. I finally understand that.
Is it easy? Sometimes. Is staying committed to the promises I made to my husband and to God worth it? Absolutely.
On the truly difficult days, when I feel like giving up and convincing myself I can handle everything on my own, I remember that my marriage is about my promise to God above all.
Breaking a promise to a man may hurt for a moment, but breaking a promise to God would wound me far deeper.
Offering Support
If your marriage feels unsteady or life feels hard, Mr. Awesome and I would love to help. A conversation, a prayer, or a Bible study together can make a difference. Reach out by PM, text, or email.
If your season is good right now, I praise God for that. Please consider praying for a couple who may need extra care. If they are on your heart, God is asking you to lift them up.
A Practical Way to Grow Together
We recommend a 6-week Bible study that takes just 30-40 minutes to do together.
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All verses needed for discussion are printed in the book
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It is an easy and practical way to reconnect and grow closer in faith with your spouse. We have done this study before, just the two of us, and we are ready to do it again.
Marriage is a journey. Some days are messy, some days are beautiful, but with Jesus at the center, it is always worth it.
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