Making Time for Him

You can read a lot about being intentional with your children, the importance of devotional time, and time spent in prayer. You know what I don’t see written about enough? Being intentional with your husband.

As wives and mothers, we can get so busy making sure the children are fed, the laundry is done, and homework is packed in the bag. We even busy ourselves with things that aren’t urgent, like washing windows, changing sheets, organizing the pantry.  All good things, but not a top priority.

When our kids need us, we drop everything to go. That’s normal. They’re loud, demanding, persistent. The squeaky wheel gets the oil.

Husbands? Not always so squeaky. They need attention in different ways, and when it’s not forthcoming, they can quietly move on. A child will persist until they’re heard. A husband may not. He may need your presence, your attention, your love, but without reminders, it might not come.

I was reminded of this as I reflected on our early years with our son. When he was born, we struggled as a couple. I suddenly had two children at home, one of whom was a very high-maintenance newborn. I thought I had it all together, so I never asked for help. My days were split between the kids, and I didn’t know how to be a wife anymore.

Years later, with three kids at home, homeschooling, and all the activities that fill our days, I still need reminders. I make time for prayer, for devotionals, for family meals, and laundry. The better I become at juggling my role as a mom, the more I recognize the importance of my role as a wife first.

My husband is patient. Faithful. Steady. Our marriage has been tested, but we’ve learned that putting each other first is not optional, it’s essential.

I’ll say it again: I choose to put my husband first. Even when parties, school events, or sales tempt me, I choose him. When our kids grow up and leave the nest, it will be just the two of us. Every choice I make now builds toward that future.

Putting him first doesn’t mean neglecting our children. It means modeling love, respect, and intentionality. It means teaching our children how to nurture relationships. It means showing them that marriage is a partnership rooted in faith.

Of course, God always comes first. He gives us the wisdom and strength to navigate life, marriage, and parenthood. Within that framework, our time together is precious, and protecting it is an act of love for our family.

We’ve watched couples fall apart through divorce, through tragedy, and we’ve decided we want something different. We choose to nurture, communicate, and put effort into our marriage today, now, in the moment, to secure a future full of love and partnership.

I’ll follow up soon with practical ways to put your husband first, because I know it can be hard to know what that even looks like. But I promise, the effort is worth it.