Sisters in Christ, I want to remind you of a truth both profound and freeing—we are not called to be micromanagers of our husbands or our children, but rather to walk in grace, trust, and faith as we strive to be slightly better versions of ourselves each day.
How would it feel to sit down with your husband and say, “Hey Babe, I’d like to talk about cultivating a slightly better life together”?
Scary? Maybe. Exciting? Full of potential? Absolutely!
Sis, it’s a fresh new day and you two can absolutely repair your marriage and move forward in harmony, no matter what yesterday looked like.
The world often distorts the beauty of a God-fearing household, forgetting that we are designed to stand beside our husbands, not to belittle or control them, or withhold ourselves from them. We are called to be their companions, encouragers, and partners in faith.
God, in His perfect wisdom, created Adam first and entrusted him with leadership (1 Timothy 2:13). Then, from Adam’s very rib, He fashioned Eve—a helper designed not in weakness, but in divine strength and complementarity (Genesis 2:18).
Eve was never meant to rule over Adam, but to stand with him in harmony, embodying both grace and fortitude. Likewise, we as wives are created with distinct and beautiful roles. Our husbands are called to protect and provide, while we are called to nourish and nurture, shaping our homes with love and wisdom.
Let go of the urge to control or manage your husband. Instead, embrace the peace that comes from trusting in God’s design. (And let’s not forget motherhood—there is much to be said about the extremes of today’s parenting culture, from helicopter parenting to the hands-off approach of “unparenting.”)
Sis, lean into your role as a helpmeet—a beacon of strength and encouragement who empowers your husband to step fully into his calling as a leader and protector (Ephesians 5:23).
Together, husband and wife become one—a radiant reflection of God’s love, power, and purpose in this world. Let’s cherish and honor this beautiful design by the way we treat one another.
I want you to live boldly in the gifts that God has given you. Be creative, pursue your passions, and allow your husband the joy of seeing and providing for the desires of your heart. Have open, heartfelt conversations. Write down your dreams for the future and, together, create a plan to cultivate the life you both long for. Do not merely wish and wait—step forward in faith and build the slightly better life God has set before you.
Here is a simple printable to get the conversation started:
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