James 1:19
Sometimes, even in the best of marriages, we find ourselves in a disagreement or a tense moment. Yesterday reminded me of that! Thankfully, God’s grace always gives us a fresh start. I wanted to share some gentle reminders and practical phrases that can help us handle those moments with love, understanding, and respect, whether in marriage or any close relationship.
First and foremost: We are on the same team.
Say this to yourself as many times as you need. Remember, you and your spouse (or friend, or child) are working together, not against each other. This perspective can transform how you approach any conflict.
Here are a few phrases and practices that can help foster harmony:
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I am not giving up on us. How can we compromise so neither of us feels hurt?
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I am feeling upset right now, but this is important to me. Can we take some time to cool off and revisit this tomorrow at 3 PM? Setting a specific time helps both hearts prepare and stay calm.
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Let’s take turns sharing our sides. Listening fully before responding shows care and respect.
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Can you clarify? Sometimes misunderstandings are all it takes to ease tension.
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Tell me more about why you feel that way. Understanding their heart brings peace.
Always speak with encouragement. The goal is not to “win”—it is to understand, to build one another up, and to foster harmony. As Ephesians 4:29 reminds us:
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
When we approach disagreements with patience, love, and a willingness to understand, we honor God and strengthen our relationships.
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