I truly believe that the words we use shape how others see themselves and how they see the world.
When you tell someone, “You’re smart,” they’re more likely to embrace challenges with confidence. When you say, “You’re organized,” they’ll feel encouraged to nurture that trait. On the other side of that is when we casually label a child “shy” or “quiet,” it can stick and sometimes it limits them more than we realize.
Even if we are diligent in praising our children at home and praying with them, the words of a stranger or an offhand comment can linger. A child who simply takes a moment to observe, think, or warm up to a conversation might hear, “Oh, you must be shy,” and believe it defines them. That label can weigh heavier than we think as the child then begins to retreat, rather than open up.
Instead, let’s choose words that highlight strengths, effort, and character. Notice the joy in small actions.
My oldest son lovingly wraps his little sister in a blanket and sings to her at naptime. He proudly carries groceries from the car, letting me know how heavy the bags are and that he can do it anyway. On a recent trip to pick out vegetables, he offered to carry a flat of plants for me. Thoughtful, strong, and helpful, those are uplifting words that describe him.
Not every moment will be perfect, but focusing on the positive teaches children and adults that they are capable, brave, and loved. Our words can inspire confidence, curiosity, and kindness.
So today, let’s pause before labeling anyone. Look for the joy. Notice the effort. Celebrate the little victories. When we do, we give the gift of confidence, encouragement, and belief in their own potential.
Love,
The Momma Bear
P.S. I’m grateful for every chance I get to be that uplifting presence, and I know we can all start today, no matter past mistakes, to speak truth and life into the people around us.
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